Although I have many dates to go over I thought I would give a glimpse into the future. I gave up. And here is why. I ran into some people that made the red flags go up before even meeting and I realized that this was, as I already knew, not my cup of tea.
Here are a few tips I learned along the way –
- Always meet in a public space
- Beware of your surroundings, you may come across as shifty eyes but until you know this person more you need to think of your safety first.
- Never divulge information that can be used to track you such as detailed information about your home address.
One particular person kept wanting to meet at a certain bar. I forget the name but I looked it up on Google Earth and it was a shack of a bar. Hole in the walls are great but only when they are your local watering hole. I tried to steer the date away from this bar by giving an excuse that it needed to be a different day and time such as afternoon and suggested coffee. This person still tried for this bar and even flipped the conversation to make me feel like I was being unreasonable. If something seems fishy it is.
So, after taking many months off of a dating site I decided to download it again and see if anything was new. I matched with a guy that seemed almost too normal for a dating site. After the previous experience that was a few bad apples in a row this normalcy was now becoming skeptical. I decided to go for it.
Then the news had this headline, “Tinder Killer caught”. And there come the red flags in full force.
With hesitation I went on the date, I made sure my phone location was connected to a friends phone and that they checked on me within a hour of the date.
Sorry to report that the guy was pretty normal. Weird. Right?